Friday, July 20, 2007

Registry 103: Etiquette- "I do"/ "I don't" enclose bridal registry cards in the wedding invitation

Thanks guys so much for all your feedback this week throughout our "bridal registry" discussion. Your comments and emails have been invaluable.

Right about now I think I have the whole process of planning a registry down pack.
If you missed my post on Bridal Registry 101 and Bridal Registry 102, make sure you check them out. My question in this final part of my Registry Series is: "Do you or Don't you enclose a registry card in the wedding invitation"? Post a comment and let me know what you think.

With all this new technology I know things have changed. Having said that, I was told that's it's perfectly acceptable to create a wedding website and enclose a card with the wedding invitation telling the guests where your wedding website is and they'll find the registry link there.
I know that I can create a free website at TheKnot, Brides and TheWeddingChannel. Is anyone creating a wedding website?

A wedding gift is an important gift for the gift-giver and the receiver, not only does it tend to be more expensive than gifts for other occasions, it's also expressing a very personal sentiment. It's a way for them to show their love for you and help you celebrate your wedding. I'm looking forward to starting my new life off with some memorable gifts that I can look back on 20 years from now and remember the day I said "I do".

8 comments:

Anonymous said...

Don't. Registry cards are tacky.

Tell your mother, mother-in-law, bridesmaids, groomsmen, family, etc. Let them spread the word.

Put it on your website and send the URL out on save the dates.

Let your shower hosts put the info in the shower invitations.

But, don't put registry info on your invite.

Anonymous said...

Agree with eisor. Registry cards should *never* be included with invites. There are many other ways of spreading the word - but to put it in an invite is so wrong!

Anonymous said...

I feel that is very tacky to enclose a registry with the invitation. Truly guests should not be obligated to buy what you tell them to buy. You'd be surprised. Many people actually have great taste and a great sense of home style, etc.

Anonymous said...

Agree with Elsor completely. Everyone who wants to know will ask you, your family or a member of the wedding party.

Anonymous said...

it is never polite to imply you expect a gift - and I'm sure you don't, you're just trying to help -but I have to say, this seems like bad form.

Vane said...

Tag, you're it Sarah!

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bride of rochester said...

i certainly did NOT put registry cards in anything. I wanted our wedding to focus on us as a couple, not the gifts that we want.

We do however have a registry on line on our website, which we set up through ewedding.com. There was a cost, but it's incredibly easy to maintain (no building a website for me!), has a TON of options, and we got our own url, which we can keep if we wish. I do wish I had taken a little more time to look at the website builders, but considering we started with one off the knot, i feel pretty good about the whole thing.

because we have directions, lodging and pictures on the website, we put it on both our save the dates and our invites, so if people want to check out the registries, they have that ability.

Anonymous said...

Skip the card in the invitations it's completely against modern and historical etiquette